25. A picture of Dylan and me
ROLL 464 | FRAME 25
Dylan and Martha, Brooklyn, September 2023.
There are a couple of books that I often come back to but the one that I perhaps pick up the most is Bluets by Maggie Nelson. There are so many reasons I like that book, which is perhaps a topic for another day, but one of the most important is that it’s a horny book. I think there is still an imbalance of how much horny work is made by women.
One of the first times I showed this work, a male photographer friend told me that he appreciated how much my work was about the female gaze. Before him saying that I had not given that aspect of my work a lot of thought. Before I was simply picturing the desire I felt for my husband, I am now well aware of what I am doing and what it means to do it.
Sex is such an important aspect of our lived experiences and yet it is always left out of remembrance. As I proclaim that work to be my family album, I had to define what that is for me. Desire is an important part of it.
From the contact sheets, this picture’s neighbors.
beautiful